When a flirt fishes for a man, she fishes merely for the sport,” goes a popular saying. Nevertheless, realizing that a flirt is unlikely to make serious moves on your boyfriend does little to alleviate the disrespect that you feel when she flaunts her witty personality and gorgeous smile for him. Realizing that you can never change someone else’s behavior, however, can help you to put the ball in your own court, where you’ll decide how to play the game. Here are some ways to handle another woman flirting with your man below;
1. Act Confident
If the girl’s motive for flirting with your boyfriend in front of you is to make you feel insecure, behaving that way gives her the satisfaction she’s looking for. Don’t give the flirt any more or less attention than she would otherwise receive from you. Likewise, don’t cling to your boyfriend or show other physical signs of insecurity.
2. Do You Really Have Reason to Be Annoyed
We react with jealousy when we see another woman moving in on our ‘territory’. It’s natural to be annoyed. But step back for a moment and look at the situation objectively. Is she really a threat? Or is it just harmless banter? If your boyfriend is trustworthy (which he should be), then he isn’t going to respond, so her flirting will be a waste of effort.
3. Appreciate The Qualities In Your Boyfriend That Make Him Flirt-worthy
Being thankful for his general gorgeousness and winning personality will bring you more peace than feeling angry about another woman’s possible overtures will. After all, you could have a boyfriend no other woman would ever look twice at, and that would be an entirely different problem.
4. How Is He Reacting
Look at how your boyfriend is reacting. If he’s ignoring her flirting, you don’t have anything to worry about. If he is responding, then quietly tell him later that you’re not happy with him flirting and will he please stop it. Point out that it’s not harmless if it upsets you, and it’s inappropriate for someone who’s in a relationship.
5. Keep Your Anger In Check
If you feel your muscles becoming tense, your heart beginning to race or other early warning signs that you might be about to lose your temper, remember that she who keeps the calmer head wins. Tell yourself you’ll talk to a friend about your feelings as soon as you have the opportunity.
6. She May Be Trying to Upset You
Sadly, there are women who love to make a move on other women’s boyfriends. It’s a game to them, or an attempt to convince themselves that they’re desirable. So she may be out to upset you. If it seems that she’s deliberately trying to provoke you, don’t take the bait.
7. Join Them
If you can’t beat them, join them (in the conversation, not in the flirtation). Subtly remind her that he’s taken, perhaps by touching his arm or mentioning your upcoming vacation together – whatever makes it clear that you’re together. This will show her that she’s flirting with the wrong man and should move on.
8. Be Fair To Him
You might at first think that your guy must be encouraging her flirtatious behavior. But be fair to him and try to assess the situation accurately. He may not be responding in the slightest. He could even be embarrassed and not know how to politely fend her off (some guys are shy or afraid that rejection won’t be taken well).
9. Trust Him To Repel Her
Ultimately, you should be able to trust your guy to make it clear that he’s already spoken for and not interested in flirting with anyone but his girlfriend. We can get jealous without any real reason to. If you can’t trust him, you don’t have a very strong relationship.
If you see another girl flirting with your boyfriend, deal with it calmly. Never get angry, as you will seem like the unreasonable one. If he’s not responding, you don’t have a problem. If he is, and thinks it’s ok, you do have an issue. Have you ever had a jealous partner – or were you the jealous one?
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